Married and dating polyamory
Some mono-metamours get overwhelmed with jealousy and impose rules like DADT (don’t ask, don’t tell), often to create the illusion of monogamy while in a relationship with a polyamorous person.
But at this point, after so many years of being poly, monogamy is almost as alien to me as polyamory is to strictly monogamous people.
Every functional mono/poly couple I’ve met understands that the poly partner’s needs can’t begin and end with one lover.
Metamours will eventually come into the picture and the poly partner will experience NRE, or “new relationship energy,” that intoxicating feeling of infatuation we’re all familiar when a fresh relationship is in its honeymoon phase.
It’s not my years of experience that validate my polyamorous identity; it’s my feelings.
Start thinking of polyamory as more of an emotional orientation rather than a set of relationship habits.